Do you overcompensate when you get stressed. That seems like a normal reaction for many. I have been trying to make an effort to step away from the problem-clear my head a little. With the yoga, I have been taken, am even trying the deep breathing idea. We need to keep the joy in our life, and lessen the anxiety. Do not take on more work, or obsess about a project; a persons health and mental environment is more important. REFOCUS to let family and friends back into the picture.
With all the turmoil going around our renovation in my work enviroment, I am having a hard time keeping up with my goals. It is stressful and also keeps reminding me that I do not have my certain confident and partner anymore.
Time heals but memories are still here and loved ones are missed.
The salto family
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Showing posts with label happiness project. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happiness project. Show all posts
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Saturday, April 7, 2012
habits that might hurt weight loss
As we all know, humans have many bad habits of all kinds. I found this articles that talks weight loss and habits.
Eating on the run-take out nightmares. "One on every corner". Take your choice for the un healthy choice of your dreams
New choice..keep healthy snacks in your car. HAVE a busy week scheduled--prep some meals ahead and plan the night before.
Skipping workouts: YES all we do need to exercise somehow somewhere.
New choice, work on making some kind of exercise a priority.
set small goals and reward yourself
Mindless munching: One of my favorites. "Usually when I am upset". This starts even from childhood..and is very hard to stop, because in our minds it works to hep the PROBLEM.
Keep track of what you eat, when and why. Try to keep the food triggers out of your house.
Keep a goal in mind of not eating these foods and then reqard yourself at the end. Do something else with your hands, when you are watching TV or whenever the tiggeer hits.
Skimping on sleep: Watch a new mother and father of a newborn. This is what doing without sleep does to a person. Set up a routine
Turn TV or comp off
Trying reading, deep breathing, maybe journal.
This will not be an easy task to break any of these but it will be well worth the effort to make your life more enjoyable, and healthier.
Eating on the run-take out nightmares. "One on every corner". Take your choice for the un healthy choice of your dreams
New choice..keep healthy snacks in your car. HAVE a busy week scheduled--prep some meals ahead and plan the night before.
Skipping workouts: YES all we do need to exercise somehow somewhere.
New choice, work on making some kind of exercise a priority.
set small goals and reward yourself
Mindless munching: One of my favorites. "Usually when I am upset". This starts even from childhood..and is very hard to stop, because in our minds it works to hep the PROBLEM.
Keep track of what you eat, when and why. Try to keep the food triggers out of your house.
Keep a goal in mind of not eating these foods and then reqard yourself at the end. Do something else with your hands, when you are watching TV or whenever the tiggeer hits.
Skimping on sleep: Watch a new mother and father of a newborn. This is what doing without sleep does to a person. Set up a routine
Turn TV or comp off
Trying reading, deep breathing, maybe journal.
This will not be an easy task to break any of these but it will be well worth the effort to make your life more enjoyable, and healthier.
Saturday, November 12, 2011
Strengths
YES, gang we all have them even tough I think most humans feel like What ME!!!
Take some time to think about what these strengths might be. Sometimes I think it is easier to see what is wrong with ourselves as well as others. Are you a negative person? seeing to mush of the bad instead of the good. Get off that band wagon..you will feel so much better.
Too much negative effects your attitude, your opinions of yourself and others. Let's try to keep a healthy, positive attitude of the things we like about ourselves and about the things we can change. USe your strengths and special knacks to improve yourself and learn new task.
This new powerful attitude will bring around the the lesser task and bring them along the road to fulfillment.
Lets go girls and guys. Positive POWERFUL strengths "HERE WE COME"
Take some time to think about what these strengths might be. Sometimes I think it is easier to see what is wrong with ourselves as well as others. Are you a negative person? seeing to mush of the bad instead of the good. Get off that band wagon..you will feel so much better.
Too much negative effects your attitude, your opinions of yourself and others. Let's try to keep a healthy, positive attitude of the things we like about ourselves and about the things we can change. USe your strengths and special knacks to improve yourself and learn new task.
This new powerful attitude will bring around the the lesser task and bring them along the road to fulfillment.
Lets go girls and guys. Positive POWERFUL strengths "HERE WE COME"
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Good Things
I wonder if we as a shuman race have forgotten how to be appreciative to what God has provided for us! What do you think?
Are you kind of blinded by the past when looking at good in front of us? Take a look around you..your life, your goals, your future. Build on the good that you are doing in your life. When we focus on the bad things that happen, or the slips we do, life just passing by. Look for the silver and you might even find the gold.
We need to live each dday not dwell on the past failures or mistales.
Go for life!!
Are you kind of blinded by the past when looking at good in front of us? Take a look around you..your life, your goals, your future. Build on the good that you are doing in your life. When we focus on the bad things that happen, or the slips we do, life just passing by. Look for the silver and you might even find the gold.
We need to live each dday not dwell on the past failures or mistales.
Go for life!!
Thursday, October 13, 2011
de-stress
Yeah right!! but I am in desperate need and so is my daughter, so I am trying desperately. Because ofcourse when one is stressed, usually one will EAT. BINGO...there goes the diet.
Try some of these hints and send some others, if found any that help you.
Try to be proactive with stress. Do not let it build and then hit you with a punch.
One of the ways, I am trying to help is keeping a food journal..not only of the food I am eating but the triggers when I want to bing.
Try some meditation massage or yoga.
Try some message boards that might be of help-blog, use the website Spark people, Talk to friends and family.
STAY grounded...stress might not be the real reason that one is reaching for food. It could be an over reaction to what is going on around you. Think about these options when your button gets push:
DEEP breaths; count to ten, remind yourself where you are by looking around, naming some colors or objects.
Notice some sensations that might be feeling-tension in hands or jaw, breathing, stomach.
Reality
Remember that life as well as dieting is not an "all or nothing" process. Bing to day, start again tomorrow.
Read your won thoughts..not others. Don't waste time by getting down on yourself--be positive
Other people--this one is so me.
I have to remember that I can not fix other people's problems, especially my children. This only adds to my stress and to my eating. They are capable of handling their own.
Perspective: no mountain out of molehills.
Think How big a deal is this really.
Do I have all the facts? Am I making assumptions. Check things out before you act and try listening instead of reacting.
Break problems down into manageable portions.
Control what you can and let the other items goooooo.!
SOMETIMES all this might take is a quick three minutes..other times might be more. The results are well worth any effort. What do you guys think?
Try some of these hints and send some others, if found any that help you.
Try to be proactive with stress. Do not let it build and then hit you with a punch.
One of the ways, I am trying to help is keeping a food journal..not only of the food I am eating but the triggers when I want to bing.
Try some meditation massage or yoga.
Try some message boards that might be of help-blog, use the website Spark people, Talk to friends and family.
STAY grounded...stress might not be the real reason that one is reaching for food. It could be an over reaction to what is going on around you. Think about these options when your button gets push:
DEEP breaths; count to ten, remind yourself where you are by looking around, naming some colors or objects.
Notice some sensations that might be feeling-tension in hands or jaw, breathing, stomach.
Reality
Remember that life as well as dieting is not an "all or nothing" process. Bing to day, start again tomorrow.
Read your won thoughts..not others. Don't waste time by getting down on yourself--be positive
Other people--this one is so me.
I have to remember that I can not fix other people's problems, especially my children. This only adds to my stress and to my eating. They are capable of handling their own.
Perspective: no mountain out of molehills.
Think How big a deal is this really.
Do I have all the facts? Am I making assumptions. Check things out before you act and try listening instead of reacting.
Break problems down into manageable portions.
Control what you can and let the other items goooooo.!
SOMETIMES all this might take is a quick three minutes..other times might be more. The results are well worth any effort. What do you guys think?
Friday, September 16, 2011
USE your park
Hey remember the equipment that was installed in parks across American three or four years ago? Did you know they where meant to be used by all and are FREE? TEE HEE. Yes friends what a great friend these equipment could be. Have you used any of them.
PARKS ARE Your friend. Walking, riding bikes, Frisbee. How about a game of tennis or pick up softball, soccer.
How about the jungle gym? Try the hiking trails, maybe roller blading. Does the park have water use?--canoe, kayaking, maybe even swimming.
It's just nice to be outside to enjoy the solitude or the companionship that the parks can offer.
The park gave give one a time for peace, aloneness or place to meet a friend.
The PARK as a treasure to be discovered.
PARKS ARE Your friend. Walking, riding bikes, Frisbee. How about a game of tennis or pick up softball, soccer.
How about the jungle gym? Try the hiking trails, maybe roller blading. Does the park have water use?--canoe, kayaking, maybe even swimming.
It's just nice to be outside to enjoy the solitude or the companionship that the parks can offer.
The park gave give one a time for peace, aloneness or place to meet a friend.
The PARK as a treasure to be discovered.
Monday, August 22, 2011
Life choices
Sunday's church message was about this same idea-the choices we make in life. Is someone trying to tell me something? BUT I do not know what!
Take responsibility for the choices you make in life. You are the force that impacts the reactions around you. Do not blame the world-your choice of actions to what life is giving you creates the force . Be your own cheerleader-control your emotions. Pep talks are good-positive thoughts to the universe. Enhance your personal development and growth.
Come on ALL, we can do this. As the minister said "sort of" make the choice to be proactive in living the Christian life and spreading the word."
OK guys the challenge is out.
Take responsibility for the choices you make in life. You are the force that impacts the reactions around you. Do not blame the world-your choice of actions to what life is giving you creates the force . Be your own cheerleader-control your emotions. Pep talks are good-positive thoughts to the universe. Enhance your personal development and growth.
Come on ALL, we can do this. As the minister said "sort of" make the choice to be proactive in living the Christian life and spreading the word."
OK guys the challenge is out.
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Where's the time?
American's are know to be in a RUSH asll the time. Just take vacation to Europe and see the differnce in time and schedules. All this over scheduling is taking a toll on our lives.
I have been thinking about this much since I am older and really want to have more time with my kids and grandkids. Came up with some thoughts I wanted to shsare.
Try to set a certain amount of time each day to do what you want. If you are like me, you will have to do this slowly but it is well worth the effort.
Take task and make them smaller time periods. A little bit of a project completted is better than nothing.
BUNDLE task, errands to budget your time and your trips.
AKS for help when needed or hire someone.
Do you really HAVE to this task? Think about this--takes a moment or two. Priorities?
Energy drainers...take a look-do you you have some these in your life? Do you really want to keep them around?
DO SOMETHING special at least once a week. What makes you happy. Might have to spend some time thinking about this. Women espcially tend to put themselves lower down on the list. It's called PLAY-do some of this at least once a week. Does a person good and it can be habit forming!!
I have been thinking about this much since I am older and really want to have more time with my kids and grandkids. Came up with some thoughts I wanted to shsare.
Try to set a certain amount of time each day to do what you want. If you are like me, you will have to do this slowly but it is well worth the effort.
Take task and make them smaller time periods. A little bit of a project completted is better than nothing.
BUNDLE task, errands to budget your time and your trips.
AKS for help when needed or hire someone.
Do you really HAVE to this task? Think about this--takes a moment or two. Priorities?
Energy drainers...take a look-do you you have some these in your life? Do you really want to keep them around?
DO SOMETHING special at least once a week. What makes you happy. Might have to spend some time thinking about this. Women espcially tend to put themselves lower down on the list. It's called PLAY-do some of this at least once a week. Does a person good and it can be habit forming!!
Sunday, May 1, 2011
health saying
I came across some funny health saying taking this class on the Unniversal Class. A great site it you have not discovered yet. ThoughtI would share some.
Eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like and do what you would rather not.
Quit worrying about your health, it will go away. (Have to digest this one)
A person's health can be judged by which he takes two at a time-pills or stairs.
GOOD HEALTH and good sense are two of life's greatest blessings.
Fond of doctors, little health, Fond of lawyers, little wealth.
WISDOM is to the soul what health is to the body.
Eat well, drink in moderation and sleep sound--in these good health abound.
This one I have taken on to be my new motto:
eat lightly, breathe deeply, live moderately, cultivate cheerfulness and maintain an interest in life. We can all relate to this message.
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Eat what you don't want, drink what you don't like and do what you would rather not.
Quit worrying about your health, it will go away. (Have to digest this one)
A person's health can be judged by which he takes two at a time-pills or stairs.
GOOD HEALTH and good sense are two of life's greatest blessings.
Fond of doctors, little health, Fond of lawyers, little wealth.
WISDOM is to the soul what health is to the body.
Eat well, drink in moderation and sleep sound--in these good health abound.
This one I have taken on to be my new motto:
eat lightly, breathe deeply, live moderately, cultivate cheerfulness and maintain an interest in life. We can all relate to this message.
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Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Time
that allusive item that we do not seem to have enough of. What can we do to help ourselves manage time.
Time audit: How do you really spend your time. Take a look at your schedule for at least a week. Evaluate the places you go and the time spent doing activities. Be honest. Are you running your life or is someone else? Combine and cut to be most effective.
To-do list:daily weekly, continuous with a calender or schedule. This list can be productive if used the correct way. Do not forget to prioritize the list.
Waste time: Don't! Bring something to do while waiting in the Dr's office, for practice to be over etc. Try to combine chores with watching the news or talking to friends.
Stock up:To avoid always running to the store, post office etc. keep items on hand. I like to keep nonperishable items in stock also. This way when making a recipe, or shopping the items are always handy.
SYSTEM: Whatever you are attempting to do-have a system. Really makes the process much easier and less time consuming. Use sticky notes to help all family members in the process.
Perfectionist: Don't (my favorite because I am not). I have found and I imagine some of you agree, that not everything has to be perfect. This idea is Way to hard to even think about. Do things the best that you can and then go on to the next chore.
No: the little word that is so hard to say. Focus on your goals especially the healthy ones and this word is not so hard to say. It could all be a matter of timing. Remember you are important. I find that I am the only one who can keep myself healthy in order to do the activities I truely want to do.
Don't you think that time management is really about managing yourself? I do. People really want to do what is important to them first and then fit in the other stuff. I feel this in turn will keep one on an even plain and happier in the long run.
Time audit: How do you really spend your time. Take a look at your schedule for at least a week. Evaluate the places you go and the time spent doing activities. Be honest. Are you running your life or is someone else? Combine and cut to be most effective.
To-do list:daily weekly, continuous with a calender or schedule. This list can be productive if used the correct way. Do not forget to prioritize the list.
Waste time: Don't! Bring something to do while waiting in the Dr's office, for practice to be over etc. Try to combine chores with watching the news or talking to friends.
Stock up:To avoid always running to the store, post office etc. keep items on hand. I like to keep nonperishable items in stock also. This way when making a recipe, or shopping the items are always handy.
SYSTEM: Whatever you are attempting to do-have a system. Really makes the process much easier and less time consuming. Use sticky notes to help all family members in the process.
Perfectionist: Don't (my favorite because I am not). I have found and I imagine some of you agree, that not everything has to be perfect. This idea is Way to hard to even think about. Do things the best that you can and then go on to the next chore.
No: the little word that is so hard to say. Focus on your goals especially the healthy ones and this word is not so hard to say. It could all be a matter of timing. Remember you are important. I find that I am the only one who can keep myself healthy in order to do the activities I truely want to do.
Don't you think that time management is really about managing yourself? I do. People really want to do what is important to them first and then fit in the other stuff. I feel this in turn will keep one on an even plain and happier in the long run.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Just for today
This is really great..I came across this from a on-line class I am taking-they took it from the guidelines of Al-anon. I shorten some it just so can get the idea-but the ideas is great. Just for today-I will live through this day only and not think about yesterday or brood about tomorrow. Just for today-I will be happy. No dwelling on depressing thoughts. Just for today- I will improve my mind by reading something that requires efforts. Just for today- I will make a conscious effort to be agreeable, to be kind, and to not speak ill of others. Just for today -I will do something to improve my health. Just for today- I will gather the courage to do what is right and take responsibility for my own actions. This is just so good. I have been passing it around to all my friends and co-workers.
Past to the present
I have heard many people say that our past paves the way to our future. What do you guys think of that statement? I think that sometimes we think that our lives have stalled when we become depressed or discourage. When you feel that way, take a deep breath-step back, and review what has already happen in your life. What a rollercoaster our life has been through your childhood, jumping into adulthood and rolling with the punches to whatever part of life you are in now. Would you answer the question "What do you want to be be when you grow up?" differently now than when you where younger. My life is very different than it was when I was in my 20-30's and not what I thought it would be at all. Think about your dreams then and compare them to now. Have you succeeded in obtaining them or are you still working on the dreams? I wish everyone your dreams and successes.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
What matters?
We have to be concious of what matters in life. Read a quote from Franics bacon about our bodies "A healthy body is a guest-chamber for the soul; a sick body is a prison."
We want to keep our bodies as guest-chamber. Let us be aware of the fragilness we all could be dealing with. Stress, sickness and even people can just run us over. We all must take a preventive approach to well being. As I keep saying: eat right, sleep well, exercise somehow on a regular basis. Deal with your emotions also to help keep all body functions running good.
Let us all try to stay healthy. Summer is coming!
We want to keep our bodies as guest-chamber. Let us be aware of the fragilness we all could be dealing with. Stress, sickness and even people can just run us over. We all must take a preventive approach to well being. As I keep saying: eat right, sleep well, exercise somehow on a regular basis. Deal with your emotions also to help keep all body functions running good.
Let us all try to stay healthy. Summer is coming!
To much organized
What a statement right? Can anyone be to organized. The answer is yes, if it takes over your life.
With all the technology out now, it seems everywhere one looks there is a note for us to something, be somewhere etc. Do not let all these devises run your life. FREEDOM, sometimes not when all this micro-organizations takes over. So pencil some time in for yourself. We humans have to have some time to play, relax, enjoy our friends and family. Be conscious of today--never know what tomorrow is going to bring.
Just learning that more of my friends have been diagnosed with cancer really makes this point.
With all the technology out now, it seems everywhere one looks there is a note for us to something, be somewhere etc. Do not let all these devises run your life. FREEDOM, sometimes not when all this micro-organizations takes over. So pencil some time in for yourself. We humans have to have some time to play, relax, enjoy our friends and family. Be conscious of today--never know what tomorrow is going to bring.
Just learning that more of my friends have been diagnosed with cancer really makes this point.
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Details
Are you a detail person. I can say that I am not. I am not a very organized person either but am working on that.
Having heard some disturbing news these last couple of days I have been thinking of the small things in life that Do make one's life enjoyable.
Do you get to see the sunset or sunrise? How about the big moon last Saturday night?
Are you the person that is taking everything for granted? Driving a car has become a source of stress rather enjoyable. Thought about the space shuttle lately? The Internet is old news to some of us.
Take some time to look around at the items that surround one daily. Think about the creations, ideas, thoughts and time that went into making these things.
How about nature. The wonders never stop when one considers nature.
Let us thank God for the creation of all--even the fact that we are alive is amazing.
This new thinking might make a person a little happy.
Having heard some disturbing news these last couple of days I have been thinking of the small things in life that Do make one's life enjoyable.
Do you get to see the sunset or sunrise? How about the big moon last Saturday night?
Are you the person that is taking everything for granted? Driving a car has become a source of stress rather enjoyable. Thought about the space shuttle lately? The Internet is old news to some of us.
Take some time to look around at the items that surround one daily. Think about the creations, ideas, thoughts and time that went into making these things.
How about nature. The wonders never stop when one considers nature.
Let us thank God for the creation of all--even the fact that we are alive is amazing.
This new thinking might make a person a little happy.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Think before you speak
This is a totally different topic than I have touch on before. I am so bad at this that I just thought I would mention. Sometimes, I say things and wonder WHAT? I am trying to be real careful sat the grief meetings, since I am one of the older time frame people in my cycle. Been there, done that. Somethings work, somethings don't.
I found a cute saying dealing with this subject relating to nature.
a philosopher said "Nature gave us one tongue and two ears so we could hear twice as much as we speak". ALRIGHT. My new goal..
I know that I tend not to listen as much as I should. People are very challenging even in my line of work. Instead of trying to justify your feelings, LISTEN, speak planning and simply..then wait for a reply. Try to be an attentive and courtesy listener. You are not responsible to change the world, fix all the problems.
You want to be heard when you are talking so extend the same thoughtfullness. We might all be surprised at the results..
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Forgiveness
Now this little word should give one pause for thought. All humans probably need to forgive someone and also themselves. Forgiveness does create a cycle, positive hopefully.
Holding grudges does not produce a good attitude and can be harmful. Bitterness can lead to hatefully thoughts which might sour your own life and cause stress.
Your best bet all around is to clear the air-either verbally or by writing a note expressing your point of view. The person might not even know you are having any trouble thoughts their way.
Get past the events so you can live feeling more free.
Try it out if you are stuck in any kind of trouble relationship.
Holding grudges does not produce a good attitude and can be harmful. Bitterness can lead to hatefully thoughts which might sour your own life and cause stress.
Your best bet all around is to clear the air-either verbally or by writing a note expressing your point of view. The person might not even know you are having any trouble thoughts their way.
Get past the events so you can live feeling more free.
Try it out if you are stuck in any kind of trouble relationship.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Just for Today
but I am going to try and do these new attitudes more than that.
I am taking a class on clutter and this was one of our motivations lesson that was adapted from Al-anon and I am adjusting for my purpose.
JUST FOR TODAY I will life for this day by not brood about yesterday and obsessing for tomorrow
I will be happy and not dwell of thoughts that make me sad but let the sunshine in
I will improve my mind by reading, researching, doing puzzles.
I will be agreeable, I will not speak ill of others and I will have the courage to do what is right by taking responsibility of my own actions.
NOW this should make me happy, don't you think.
A big bit to take but I am up for the challenge.
I am taking a class on clutter and this was one of our motivations lesson that was adapted from Al-anon and I am adjusting for my purpose.
JUST FOR TODAY I will life for this day by not brood about yesterday and obsessing for tomorrow
I will be happy and not dwell of thoughts that make me sad but let the sunshine in
I will improve my mind by reading, researching, doing puzzles.
I will be agreeable, I will not speak ill of others and I will have the courage to do what is right by taking responsibility of my own actions.
NOW this should make me happy, don't you think.
A big bit to take but I am up for the challenge.
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Secrets of adulthood
I found a very clever outlook on adulthood in The Happiness project that I mention last year.
This is my version of this--feel free to add to this in future posts
I believe that people really do not notice our mistakes as much as you think.
Ask for help if you need and also for directions.
Do good as often as you can and feel good about it.
Do a little bit every day and you will get the task accomplished
When you can not find something you are looking for (CLEAN up), the items usually turns up.
You can choose what you do.
You do not have to be good at everything.
Happiness is not always the answer
Over the counter medications often work
What's fun for other people might not be fun for you.
LOVE this one- People do prefer you buy wedding gifts off the register
NO deposit, no return
Turn the computer off and on-might help the problem.
Add some more and we can some with this.
Friday, November 26, 2010
Connecting
It is normal to be concerned about the effect you have on your immediate world. I have been trying to improve myself, which I believe will in turn help others (maybe). Develop your strengths that you can be an example to others. Take a skill and share it with others. For a better world, I think it is more productive to less For other people and more With them. My youngest daughter came back with Ethiopia with this attitude three fold. She is trying to spread the word and I hope I can help.
Come and spread some hope with people.
Come and spread some hope with people.
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